@orange -- great post. "If only my WAW and me ahd read this stuff years ago...sigh...)" I hear you, brother.
@mind -- I posted a response, but the computer seems to have eaten it. W's already heard everything that I put in my response to GFI. She's also read it -- when my mother sent a truly nasty e-mail to me about WAW, and WAW found it on my computer, it precipitated a bit of a blow-up between mother and me. I wrote her a long email explaining my POV of the situation, and setting forth pretty much everything you saw there in the GFI response.
So there's no mystery here. W still believes D is the only way out for her.
