New to the world of adultery

[FitChik]

IYou said this was his second marriage and your first. Why was he D'd before?

Also, this is up to you and you may have already read it or may not have. Read Matthew 19:9 in the bible.

There is a couple reasons I point this out since you have become very faithful to God and religious.

1. If he was unfaithful before to his first wife, he did not have permission to remarry which makes you still unmarried spiritually. In that sense, you are free to walk. It was nothing more than a legal M. It wasn't a spiritual M. This is from any protestant bible.

2. If he wasn't unfaithful, again, he had no spiritual grounds for remarriage unless his first W was unfaithful and this only according to the protestant bible.

According to H, their personalities didn't match up. States his first exW had a lot of childhood issues that she wouldn't work on that impacted their R. So never got a real clear picture about their R.

I do not know if he was unfaithful in his first M. This week for the first time he told me he was - but again denied it yesterday. So I have no idea what to believe???

I do believe A is a valid reason to D according to the Bible. However God does not instruct his to D in such instance. I believe He would want us to love & forgive our S regardless what they have done, just like He does. However a cookie cutter approach cannot be taken and it is a personal decision. A one time A is much diff't than years of As with diff't people.

There are several other reasons in the Bible for D. Matthew 19:8 states it is acceptable to D when your Ss heart is hardened. In 1 Corin 7:15 is states in an unbeliever leaves, let them go & we are not bound to them by our M. These 2 are very hard for me to decifer if they apply to my H. His heart is definitely hardened but there are still some soft spots in there. Also while my H states he doesn't have faith now, he once was very passionate about it. So I'm drawing a big ???? on both of these.