WAW1

[markhaving probs]

My wife texted me this morning to ask me if I had told our neighbours about us. When she had asked me a few weeks ago I had said no, when she asked me again this morning I texted her and said I HAD told our neighbours about us a few weeks ago. In my text I added I wanted us to have an open and trusting relationship and this is why I admitted to my wife I had told our neighbours. She then rang me and said "You did it again, you lied to me AGAIN", this was because of my admission and wanting to start with a clean slate. She said I am a compulsive liar like my father (whom she hates) and I just been a weak man, I even admitted to her mother yesterday that I don't want to go but I have to (what a stupid thing to say to her mother - serious backslide). She also said I am persuing via the children and prying into her private life, all I am doing is asking her about her day ahead which was something I never did before, she said "why start asking now, you never did before and it makes me angry. Do not ask anything about me, only the children".

I feel down again because as soon as I feel I am making tiny steps of progress something like this happens and I feel I have gone even further away from my wife. I feel I keep shooting myself in the foot, but I have been so confused and had to vent to people that I should not have done, but I am so desperate for advice, guidance and agreement because of the way my wife is acting. I have never meant to harm my wife when I have lied, unfortunately, it has come back to haunt me.

Please can somebody tell me what to do at this point? I feel lost at this point.