Renee, The posters have been giving you excellent advice. Listen to them.
You need to sit your son down and have a serious talk w/him. If he raises the issue of your xh and starts talking about what his dad and the ow are doing or saying, then you need to politely change the subject and tell him that you no longer wish to hear about their lives. You also have to remember, a dog that brings a bone will carry one. In other words, your son is telling you stuff and then going back and telling his father what you are saying and how you are reacting to the information. You are the adult and have control over this issue. Stop the conversations concerning your xh and ow.
About his engagement and upcoming marriage...this is not your mistake to make. This is his life to screw up royally. You are divorced and you need to let him go completely. What he does w/his life is no longer your concern. Yes, we all know that rebound relationships usually don't work out...but this is not your worry. Keep in mind...you are not this man's mother.
Let him go. Keep the focus on yourself and your children.
Snodderly I am SOOOOO GLAD you are back. I thought I lost you forever. I do catch my self trying to be a mother figure to him. I told him, for instance, to make sure this is what he wanted before he done this, and he told me not to counsel him, he would be fine.
