A quick update as I think this is significant:
I got an email from TJ asking me if I would go to D 22 graduation from college. I had discussed it with her, and since her 2 sisters did not walk, then I would not force her. She was fine with that.
Well TJ put it to me that D22 would reconsider if BOTH of us would attend. What did I think?
I replied "that would be nice".

No reply.
So tonight D22 picks Beth and I up from the airport (spring break trip) and she told me "I am walking".
I thought she meant exercising.
She proceeded to tell me she knew that I knew because her dad called her and said that I would go.
I said, well it wasn't exactly that, but I wanted to know if her dad was bringing his girlfriend before I committed.
D22 said she was positive that she would NOT come, 100%
---- as a matter of fact they broke up.
She also shared with me:
that OW was just awful,
OW moved back in with TJ and is now in the process of moving out.
TJ had gotten her(D22) a piece of artwork that was just awful, way to young for her, what did I think she should do? (I said don't do anything just pretend that you like it)
TJ is willing to give her a loan for law school

D22 did not put any conditions on walking at graduation, but has no idea why TJ wants her to walk, because her sisters did not, and she would have another graduation that was more important.

Bomb 1/06
D dismissed 11/07, attempt reconciliation. Premature.
Divorce final October 31, 2008.
OW looks like bad history. Over.
Still hopeful. Baby steps.
In R with my X.