and don't cast out the other possibilty that he cheated here and there, but not "way over there"...and blah blah blah. What a nut case he is right now. Obviously NOT ready for M and why he thought he was, or wanted to marry or didn't may NEVER be known.
My point--don't spend too much time trying to figure out nutty crappy behavior. He likely does not understand it himself so why would you? I spent countless months trying to figure out my H and his mlc and you know what? I WILL PROBABLY NEVER UNDERSTAND THE CHOICES HE MADE and I now accept that.
All that truly matters is what we are now and going forward and that we agree on that. I will not rack my brain trying to de-code his feelings or quests, or whatever it was that motivated him.
So you were briefly married to a guy who is either a pathological liar (and this IS pathological lying at it's finest) or a cheater, or both. Now you know.
So what are you going to do with the rest of your life? How much of it does this idiot get to screw up of YOUR time on earth? This is not a dress rehearsal. Remember about your life being a novel? If it's a book, how is this chapter going? What do YOU want to have happen in the next chapter? How is the book of your life going and who is writing it? Be the author of your life and start THIS chapter with YOU writing it. No more idiot h dictating how your life/book is going...or the next chapter or the epilogue.
I have lost a brother and have one going to Afghan. Also a bil who died in September of a brain tumor (and mil has cancer so =WE HAVE BEEN ON A DEATH WATCH THIS YEAR....) so yes, I am sensitive to the fact that Tomorrow is promised to no one.
Life is short. Start enjoying your time here and he cannot be part of that. Period. Sorry. But...this is too weird and too cruel for you to function with, given that others will depend on you. As a veteran, I have to say I deeply resent this kind of crazy drama from a soldier. Who does this??
Take care of yourself and have a blast skiing...and fix your SGLI and any other papers of the military, and see a JAG...and EAT something delicious!
(( j ))
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
