Nice moves, Mark. Don't know what suggestions to make re: playing "dim," since UK seems to have different divorce rules than much of USA, particularly my little corner of the New World, which is "no fault." You ought to confer with the solicitor, but I fail to see how one can "neglect" one's spouse during a separation, the very purpose of which, it seems to me, is....neglect (of a sort).
I wouldn't stay dark re: the children, but I wouldn't make so many enquiries that they smacked of trying to find an excuse to talk to her. On Sunday evening, for example, you could SMS to get a reading on their schedule for the week. If they have significant events during the week, it's natural to check in on them if W doesn't contact you first. Otherwise, maybe call JUST to talk to the children.
