Yea, for you realizing that being in a negative mood is draining. It is for you and everyone around you. That is why DB teaches us to act as if we are in a better mood than what we may actually feel. It is like meeting your perspective in-laws for the first time and putting your best foot forward......lol. Hummm.......I'll have to remember that anology!

Seriously, it took me a long time, but I did learn that I was capable of putting on my best face and my best foot forward, and uusually the rest followed....lol. We find out that we can do more than we often give ourselves credit for. We've all been somewhere when we had to be on our best behavior and maybe did not feel so hot on the inside.....so it proves the point, doesn't it? I read a long time ago that if we pretended to be like the person we wanted to be--that one day...we would become that person. Learning not to allow my bad moods to control my behavior was a hard lesson, but I found out I could do it if I wanted to badly enough. I also did an expierment many years ago after ready yet another book ;\) and took a situation that would have normally made me very angry and I would have ruined everyone's visit and made my H miserable.......and "chose" to make the best of it and I was fun and relaxed and everyone had a great time....including "me"! The added bonus was that my H came to me later and told me how proud he was of me. I could tell he was quite surprised. So, we have the power to do pretty much what we choose to do. Don't know how encouraging that is or isn't, but for whatever it's worth.....there it is... \:\)

Take care,
Sandi


It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!