Good job Making_It! I tell men all the time that a woman will pay much attention when the male uses a soft yet firm voice in showing his strength. When speaking like this, he is showing control over his emotions, over the stitch, and over her..... and it impresses her even if she flies off the handle at the time. It makes much more headway than any other way of talking to her. After she cools down, she will think even more about what you said. I loved the part about telling her to call before she comes over. You get an A+ from me!
Women may talk about how they want their H to change, but there is one thing a woman does not want and that is a H who will allow her to control him. She will! IF he let's her. But in her heart, that is not what she wants. Some people have never seen the old movie "Gone with the Wind" which has my favorite male character -- Rhett Butler. Do you know why Scarlett was drawn to him even though she tried to convince herself that she was not in love with him? B/c she could not control him. Oh, he spoiled her with his riches, and he loved her to death, but he would not allow her to use him and control him. And, the only reason she thought she wanted Ashley was b/c he didn't want her and was unavailable to her. Aren't humans strange?
You did the right thing and waited until you were alone to let your emotions break. If you will keep this up, I think you will start to see some big changes.
Take care, Sandi2
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
