WAW1

[markhaving probs]

I moved into my friends house this afternoon, did a weekly shop for food etc. I had received 2 calls from my wife which I ignored for roughly 30 minutes. When I rang her it went to voicemail, I left upbeat message saying I was returning her call. At this stage she had no idea I was moving out, she assumed it would have been tomorrow, the idea being I call the shots for a change, be unpredictable and to give her the idea I was not 'clinging' to her or the house. I left her a message saying I had moved my things out and we must discuss the children again and monies to be paid. I finished the note with a smiley face and a kiss. This was to show I am in control of what needs to be discussed but in a nice way.

She rang me while I was shopping and she told me she had tried to reach me a couple of times. She asked me why I had taken literally every item of clothing, toiletries, shoes etc with me, I told her I did not want to have to keep coming back to the house to collect things. Again, I was trying to show her I was not going to keep running back to the house on the pretence that I had forgotten something. If I had just taken a few items, in her current clouded WAW mind, she would definately have complained that I had not taken enough things with me, and she would have said I had done it deliberately so that I could keep running back there to check up on her. She then agreed to meet to talk about the children and the Divorce paperwork.

I think I have played this situation today pretty well, I think now I need to go 'dim' rather than dark which was one of the reasons I am being cited, which was neglect. I will discuss childrens issues with her, though should I initiate any calls, texts to her regarding the children, or should I let her do the contacting? I am not sure how to play this.