hi guys home from work now, read your posts and thank you, ive made a decision, im metting my wife in an hour, im making a stand for myself, i wont be nasty and i will be calm, but i am going to tell her a few things, i made this decision today while at work, i cant carry on like this. not sure what to say yet but im thinking long and hard about it i will post back later let you guys know what was said thanks
Beno if you're not sure of what to say don't bother meeting up with her. There would be no point and you would just prove her right: that you are weak and disillusioned and without her you are nothing.
You will get your chance.
If you need something to tell her, tell her that you won't allow her to disrespect you or use you anymore. Whatever she is doing now is her decision and you will make a decision for yourself as to how it continues in the future and that part will be YOUR decision. Leave it at, short & sweet and then walk away.
Remember, being strong doesn't mean be angry, it just means setting rules & boundaries for how people will treat you in YOUR life because that's the only life you get to live.
You just need to put the idea in her head that aren't going to be a doormat or a punching bag anymore and that any time she tries that behavior, you will just ignore her and walk away. When she wants to be calm & civil, that is when she will be allowed to be around you and talk to you and only then, and there will be no wavering on this issue.
