how did you find all this out?

he is sooo convinced you are the source of his pain. the D didnt make it go away so maybe marrying her will. Thats where the erasing you comes from,

Didnt you have a lawyer for your D?


Me 53
H 51
OW 25
Bomb may 06
left june 8/ 06
ILYBNILWY (twice!)
7/6/07 H wants to come home
7/21/07 H comes home
7/07 -7/08 long haul letting go of OW
now piecing in earnest