Hi Beno, I apologize for just now getting back to your thread. I see where you have received fantastic advice from Rob. I hope you will do what he has suggested b/c he is correct in what he has said.
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yes i have been pretending nothing is wrong, ive been carrying the burden of it all every last ounce of it, my wife has yet to experiance any loss, beacuse ive been and done everything i normally do for her, its not different for her, she is the one smiling and happy and going about life in an arrogant way, while im the one going through all of this and acting like nothing is wrong to her, so she cant see what she is actually doing,
All I will say at this point is stop pretending everything in the MR is fine. Stop enabling her to live alone and stop doing everything she wants you do to for her. As long as she does not have to suffer the consequenses of her bad decisions, she will never change. You say she needs a wake-up call..........what did you have in mind? As long as you rescue her and enable her to live like she wants........she will not wake up. She has it made!
You can receive excellent advice until the end of time, but until you decide to take the bull by the horns and do what you've been told.......your stitch will remain the same. Time for you to make the changes. Drop the rope and start living your life as if she is no longer a part of it and I can almost promise you that it will get her attention. But, you can't do it "just" to get her attention, you must do it for YOU! Most LBS do not want to do this, but it works very well when they have a WAS such as yours.
Hope you will think about it.
Sandi2
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
