(your next questions will invariably be what is it that we should do Rob but before you ask what you should do, look at your respective situations and be honest if you are strong enough to let them go or if you want to drag these situations on for months and possibly years?)
again rob i now believe im strong enough to let go infact last night i did nothing but think about myself, thats the first time ive done that, normally im constantly thinking of my wife, so yes i do beleive im now ready to let go, i certainly dont want to drag these feeling out for months or years. it hurts way to much and makes you feel like cr@p,