A New Decade

[MsMelancoly]

Maybe it's called guilt, guilt guilt. I know early on after my H left, he would come over when I wasn't home & take things. But, then I know I made more of an issue back then. Could be too that they all hold memories, & what a better way of escaping them ....

Even when we were simply best friends, we always said hello & goodbye with a peck kiss on the lips. What is a tongue sarnie??? Is that like what I call a "move star kiss" Anyway, it wasn't a quick peck, (like our last few meetings) it was just a tad bit longer than that & about 3-5 kisses in total & not really romantic. Enough info for you - Ali

Yes, we were both quite comfortable with each other. Just having fun enjoying each other's company. At one point he got or we got me laughing so hard, I was about to cry. Hadn't done that with him in ages! He told me that his drunk neighbor came over at 10pm to give him some mail that came in his neighbors box. My H was sleeping woke up to banging on the door. So he grabbed his sword & answered the door. I told him he should have put on his suite of armor (yes, he has a real suite of armor), anyway he said well, that takes about 2 hours to put on. H said I guess I could have yelled for the guy to wait a minute, until I got my armor on!. Then I said maybe you should have answered the door with your sword & helmet on, then H added & had my shield too!

Aaaaahhhhh, maybe ... ya just had to be there to find this all funny .... but it was Can you imagine, someone out in the suburbs answering their door with a a full or half suite of armor on!!!!!!!

[MichelleLT]

LMAO

I love that he grabbed his sword to answer the door. That is too funny.

[JCJ]

Hey Ms M,

That all sounds so positive. Laughter is a great tool! So funny about the sword!

Jx

[MsMelancoly]

Ah, I would expect nothing less from my H - kinda crazy.

Called my H last night, he was busy, so our talk was brief. Told me he was driving to his mum's today. H told me to call him over the weekend to remind him to get my things from his mum's house.

I decided to call him today, to break up his loooonnnggg drive. Surprise!!! He answered! We chatted a bit about misc things. I asked him if he liked the home cooked food, I sent home w/him on Sunday. He slipped up & said "Oh, Hun, it was ssooo delicious". He hadn't called me Hun, in ages. Strange, but I think we are far enough apart, for him to feel comfortable again. He told me to call him tomorrow to remind him of my things to get.

One ebook that I bought about dating, before I found this site, said that what men like is a "cool girl". Think I'm getting back to being that "cool girl"!!

[MichelleLT]

Yay! Some really good positive stuff there!

You are doing great!

You are definitely the cool girl in my book

[JCJ]

oh, oh how do you be a cool girl??

[MsMelancoly]

Ah, Your cool in my book too Michelle! And Julia .... you already have that "cool girl" mastered

Ok, here's what this man said summarized: Cool Girls or cool women are women who naturally "get" the social & emotional dynamics that resonate w/men & make them feel like a relationship is fun, easy & works for them.

Also, cool girls don't whine, are funny & positive, non-controlling, have options so they don't feel left out if not invited. They don't force their opinions on men (ok I gotta work on that!), aren't afraid to be honest (don't know if our men can handle that!) And know how to handle their emotions & think before they speak.

Another summary of his, which is close to DBing: don't look for your love relationship as your main source of happiness & fulfillment. Work on developing other relationship interests & goals in order to be happy & fulfilled in life & love.

So what do you think??

[Kenn]

Hey MsM,

Thought I'd drop by and say hi. Now I am trying to figure out my definition of a Cool Girl... can't come up with one quickly so I am going to have to sleep on that! Hope all is going well!

[MichelleLT]

I like that definition.

Also, cool girls don't whine, are funny & positive, non-controlling, have options so they don't feel left out if not invited.

Most of the time...

They don't force their opinions on men (ok I gotta work on that!), aren't afraid to be honest (don't know if our men can handle that!) And know how to handle their emotions & think before they speak.

Ditto to everything you said LOL.

So what do you think??

I like it!

[MsMelancoly]

So I called my H on Sunday, hoping he would have his phone on for his loonnggg drive. It was off, so I just aleft a quick message wishing him a safe drive. Yesterday he sent me an email, subject said Thanks & basically said thanks for calling & asking me what day is best this weekend for him to work on my car. I sent a nice short email back. Then today I get a request from him from my life??? I guess it was reunion com?? Ok, this is not like my H - he doesn't stay in touch with anyone really. Is my life like fb?? So strange ... good but strange..