I remember my wife gave me a letter that finally let me in on what she was thinking, and it was generally this. She was not thinking at all, she just knew she had to get out and that before she could think about us, she had to work things out with herself.
That was the first time it hit me that she was really in a crazy f'd up place. She did not have a plan, did not think about the consequenses on our two boys, financially, or anthing else. Lucky for me, she started to go to individual therapy with a guy that was recommended to her by a friend. It really was very lucky she chose to do that for herself.
Any chance she can go speak to someone professionally? Maybe a mutual friend that could get in her ear?
Burt
I know that my wife is in a very similar place, it is obvious by her actions and decisions. She is scared and panicking now, but won't admit it. I have suggested that she speak with a therapist as has her family. It seems like it has gotten some traction, but she hasn't taken any initiative to get one scheduled yet. I will keep trying that angle, but I don't want it to look like I am trying to "control" her life as she says. I really hope that she will. If not for us, then at least for her own personal development. Thanks bud!
M 30 WAW 29 T 15 M 5 ILYBNILWY 3/8/09 Separated 3/14/09
