I have posted my story previously and it's long and drawn out. I just have a couple of questions to ask.
Has anyone heard that their spouse does not want to be responsible or a parent? My husband came into our relationship at a young age (23). I was already in my 30's with 3 children. He has said his major motivation for leaving is that he doesn't want to be a dad. He feels as if he is a bad role model. He also says he doesn't want to be responsible for anyone but himself.
Now mind you we also have the issue of him seeing me as a mother figure instead of as a wife. This is all due to nagging and me always being the responsible one ie. making sure the bills got paid and stuff got done. I told him when we first got together that I did not want to be his mother nor did I want to raise him and I meant it. I feel as if I was forced to be his mother when it was something I balked at repeatedly. I would tell him I did not want to have to remind him of things because it made me feel like I was trying to be his mother, yet he would forget so many things that it became a standing joke in our house.
A friend of mine called and spoke to him today to get his side because all he was hearing was mine. My friend tells me that I need to realize that this is over and move on. Why is it that I am able to convince myself that he will change his mind?
I need some advice here. I am driving myself crazy!
"It is excruciating pain. It is the pain of separation, the pain of loss, the pain of dreams and expectations unrealized. It is the loss and death of a mirage."
