waw after 13 years

[Making_IT]

beno,
It sounds like you are writing my story man. I certainly don't want to turn her friends against her. I wouldn't say that any of them are against her, although she feels that way. Many of her friends have confided in me that they have no idea what the heck is going on. Several of them are upset that she isn't turning to them for support during this time. I don't have answers for them any more than I can give answers for why she snapped. She is alienating herself and I can't help her in that department. Our family sitch is just the same. Her family can't understand why this is happening. They are there for her and support her, but they can't figure it out.

I have been trying to rationalize an unrational action/decision. That is what I am focusing on letting go of right now.