Need Help handling affair thats still going on

[kjensen]

Mach-
Funny -in that you have a good (appreciated) sense of humor.
A sense of humor is invaluable during this craziness!

If YOU F-ed up, how would YOU want that shown to you ?

I would want someone to show me with love and physical affection!! but that's not what he wants ..

I know, I know, back to the drawing board...
I think H wants to have nothing brought up that would give him the slightest feeling that he wasn't respected or trusted. He is wired to respond at the slightest hint of judgement and distrust with full-blown anger(as a defense I believe)..the problem is...although I respect him(him, not necessarily his recent decision-making), I currently don't trust him and don't think I should necessarily as the lies big and small are still happening...