After she retires is she staying in the area? Are you expecting orders anytime soon?
I firmly believe that she will pay for it, whether its constant respect-less changing of partners, never being able to build a truly honest, intimate relationship like my OW, or living with the fact that you lied to her H who has stood by you for your whole career like your OW, what a lonely marriage they must have, its no small thing to feel like you need to look outside your marriage for a companion, I assure you she didnt have an affair because she is happily married.
Who knows, maybe her cockiness is a front to protect the real her, who is just a scared little girl who needs constant reassurance and who gets it by attracting the attention and affection of the men around her. Really her self-esteem is in the toilet.
My most recent one is called "Just so you know", you are welcome to check it out, and I would appreciate any input you may have!
I guess I gave the wrong finger to the wrong man...