Well, from the sounds of it, she's entitled to curse you out a bit. Like you say "take it on the chin", listen and don't throw your 2 cents back.
She's not making these calls when drinkning or anything right?
Nope. She's just incredibly pissed and hurt. She has reason to be. I know that. I want to do things right; God knows I made nothing but mistakes when this separation first came about. She is like a different person when dealing with me! She told me recently that she doesn't care about me at all anymore. That hurts. I remind myself that I've said plenty of hurtful things to her in the past...things I didn't mean. I was just pissed and hurt. That doesn't justify my behavior though. I was plain wrong.
"Always go straight forward, and if you meet the devil, cut him in two and go between the pieces." - William Sturgis, clipper ship captain, 1830's.