Is the answer blowing in the wind?

[Dom R]

H said today at MC he really thinks we should just file and move on.
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The difference is- I went on a date. That's right.
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We held hands and kissed a little (very little) bit. The important thing (to me) is that I felt some butterflies. it gave me hope that somewhere out there is someone that I will like that will like me back.

[H will] go to counseling on his own next week to see if they can figure out why he always comes back.
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BUT, if I look at it realistically, there is no place for me in his life. He hurts me over and over with his self-absorbed actions.

Time to move on.

What a freaking idiot your H is.
He doesnt need to figure out "why he always comes back". He needs to figure out "why he keeps trying to leave a person who treats him nicely and loves him".
And the answer is obvious, and has been for a long time:
Ye olde "fear of commitment", and just plain selfishness.

This will probably be my last post here for a long while.
No lasting positive change in my situation; still the same old crap. Some of it worse.
I've gotten tired of dealing with the same old excuses just as you have.
3 years! Blah.
[seems like lots of old-timer people on here are going on a Spring Cleaning thing!]

Maybe I'll post a 6month update

I hope you enjoy your life of freedom, with someone who actually treats you decently, and appreciates you, when it comes, Trixi