AFWAW says: Saw the wife this morning at the gym. VERY pleasant to me, very pleasant. She told me I looked and smelled good. She asked me if I had been asked out yet? Nope, you? She said she had. I said by whom? She said some fat Peuto Rican? She said she declined of course. I did not react either way. She leaned in for a kiss and said she missed me. Now, I pursued a bit after this. We went out to her car and talked for a few minutes. She told me a little about work, blah, blah, blah. Then I asked her if she was still considering moving back home. She said she was conflicted. She likes having her space and not having to pick up if she doesn't want to and if she makes a mess, it's hers and no one bitches at her, etc. I told her that stuff wasn't that important to me anymore--keeping the house spotless, etc and my priorities had shifted. She said she didn't think I had changed and I said well you haven't really lived with me for almost a year now. She said yeah, that's true but it's not just about you. She asked if she could bring anything tonight for our movie night. I offered to cook dinner and she accepted. So, my goal tonight is to put on my best 180 and not focus on the stupid stuff I focused on before and just try to have a nice relaxing evening. She leaned in for another kiss before I got out of the car and said she missed me.
If you guys on this thread don't think that she's giving clues that she is willing to be taken... well... that makes me fear that there have been many missed opportunities in your marriages.
Women typically want to be pursued. If we aren't being pursued, we try to put a little something out there... a little tap on the shoulder... in hopes that you'll get the idea and come forward on your horse (cowboy), or ship (pirate), or wooly mammoth (caveman).
I hope tonight is fantastic, AFWAW. Of course, try to temper the desire to think too much about what it means. It could just mean that she's in the mood for some fun. It could mean that she wants to see if you two can connect again. She may not be thinking too much about what it means at all. She might change her mind or her mood might be dampened once she's in the home setting with all of the reminders around. Who knows...
I say be ready for anything, but don't assume anything, and be sure to read her mood before making any moves.
