No use to bring up the good things, she will lie to your face. My wife said all kinds of things that were just not true, things like not having fun on trips in which I know she did, but this would not justify her feelings so she would lie and tell me how she never really loved me, no fun, hated sex, blah blah blah, script script script of the waw.
How can you say you respect her decision, I sure as hell don't, I do not respect those that want to quit on something that they vowed not to, especially without even working on it nor even letting me know something was wrong. I let her know that up front, and that was that, no use of going over it again and again. However, I think your time has past to blow up at her as I did my wife in the beginning. But I sure would not tell her that I respect her decision.
Remember people do not like to think they make bad decisions, so sometimes they need to maneuver away from a bad decision with keeping their dignity, (eventhough it would be more dignified, if they just said, well I am sorry I did that, lets work on this thing).
