Okay, I just interperated "crap" as you were there, she was talking and all you heard was "blah,blah'blah [yes dear I see your lips moving but not hear what you're saying].
Good, your clarification shows hope. i got on your original statement because that was a mistake I made, i wasn't listening, I wasn't validating and drove her to upgrade the EA with OM to a PA.
That said, continue as you are. It sounds as if you two can at least communicate effectively. How often do you? Who initiates it and how?
Me 35/XW 33 S13 & S12 M: 10/17/98 OM & S: 07/08 D final 06/09/09 12/03/09 - 06/13/10 "Piercing" 06/13/10: Engaged to Re-marry 10/17/10 06/25/10: Expecting baby #3 2/14/11