Polly, I am not familiar with your sitch. A wise man used to tell ask a while ago and i am paraphrasing: "are you in or are you out?" Well once you have that answer and more often than not it is oin, than act accordingly or rather try putting the chances on your side.....that is where the book comes in. Another wise man used to tell me or remind me on a regular basis to saty positive. Good things happen to good people. I believe that ....eventually the tide will turn. Be good Polly!
SoTired...without knowing your sitch at all, if i may, one quick comment....this is a long battle....a maraton , not a sprint. If you have reasons to be angry (and most of us on here do), let that anger out .... find an outlet ..a punching bag like Kerry uses at the Gym...run like BBJ... Secondo, this is not contardictory; do not think too far ahead. You will realize that we go through speed bumps. Eventually you will find the smooth road...with or without your W. Keep your mind on the goal and stand up for what is right...to you. K, I am not at the point where a little "tonic for my wounded soul" will knock me out. Quite the contrary, I am sleeping less.
I hear you on the sleeping thing. I think I will sleep less when I am more detached. I actually sleep more now, don't know if it is hints of mild depression or what, I put the kids to bed, think I will go get something done, and suddenly I am asleep, too! Going to focus more on getting my house in order figuratively and literally and that will keep me up later the next few weeks...
Glad to hear you had that moment! That feeling that you think someone else is pretty darn interesting and worth getting to know. Nice to have some positive feelings flowing, eh? I had a similar moment in the car yesterday with a particular laugh that my H had, I said something, he looked at me, grinned, burst out laughing, and there I went again....dang it!
Oh well. Glad for your D8 too, that she can talk to you about her feelings and also that she isn't feeling so sad about the situation at this point. I am sure there will be highs and lows but the fact that she leans on/talks to/shares with her daddy is a big, big plus....
And I am NOT a doctor but some pma-boosting, happiness-filled time with someone of the opposite sex sounds great to me!
Speaking of sleep i could sure use some.....this all night stuff is very difficult at my age! I feel hungover minus the headache...thank goodness this is a 4 day weekend. I just found out that D8 will come over tommorow afternoon....so I am free again tonight....I wonder if I should go out again or just watch the masters and the post game afterwards....much easier on this old body!
Hiya John. Congrats on finding someone with which to spend some enjoyment.
Yeah, I can relate to the sense of wanting to shout "Why couldn't you have made up your mind a year ago?" When I think of how much money I spent on MC and she'd already checked out. I can get a little angry.
These days, the real feelings come when I'm at school functions. It hurts a lot to see all the couples there that at least look happy. When the loneliness is upon me, I can get mightily angry. I think it would be easier if she weren't involved again already.
Anyway, I guess what I'm saying is that you seem to me to be handling things with an amazing aplomb.
Hey Dan, i have had similar feelings with the school functions but they too will pass...trust me. Time is a great healer. I just think that perhaps the clock does not start ticking until we are ready. Whether or not they are involved again may or may not help Dan. Some may argue that in your case now that she is involved again, it would be easier to detach. But we are all different. You know the best thing about all this DBing is that it enables us to work on ourselves learn alot about human behaviour and relationships and has helped me to not judge other people when they are going through difficulties. Thank you for the complement Dan. Not sure i am handling it with aplomb, however, I am at a much better place than at this time last year
I watched the Masters final and thought it was very good. I was hoping the old guy would win it as he is only 2 months younger than I. Pretty amazing that Angel Cabrera was able to unintentionally bounce off a tree on the first playoff hole to keep himself in it.
I was pulling for Kenny Perry myself. Nice guy / family man from a very small town in Kentucky (still lives there). Actually he will be the parade something or other for another one of my favourite events the Kentucky Derby. I guess when you finish the tournament Bogey / Bogey, you do not deserve to win. Too bad, apparently both his parents are very ill and were watching from home. Would have made for a nice feel good story. I have to admit that he was a gracious runner up and reallly showed his true colours in the post game interviews. I tip my hat to him. To me he is a bigger winner than the Argentinian who can not speak english or refuses to. On the home front, XW cleaned the garage in preparation yo "show" the house and i went to pickup D8 at the house. Saw my old doggy (who was VERY happy to see me) and picked up some stuff including my old hockey sticks. spent a good part of the weekend playing ball hockey with D8. She really loves hockey. The NHL playoffs are getting underway this week, golf season is around the corner, I have a very nice new friend who thinks I am Casanova. I know it is very early but she looks and sounds like a very nice person. It doesn't get any better than this.....does it?
Hey Mike, have not heard from you in a while. I get over on FB very seldomly. I did get over there this weekend. I hope things have quieted down for you and your dad is doing better. Miss your insight and your honest in your face comments around here. Take care of yourself and the wonderful people in your life.
Going to focus more on getting my house in order figuratively and literally and that will keep me up later the next few weeks...
