I Never Imagined Being Here

[Making_IT]

Thank you for the advice dburt. I guess I look at rebuilding the marriage vs. repairing the damage.

One internal battle that I am fighting is that I haven't been honest with her about how I feel about her leaving. I have told her that I don't agree with her, but I can respect her decision. I am having a hard time telling myself that I respect her decision when I am not sure that I do. Her decision was disrespectful to me, our home, our family and every aspect of our life that we have built together. She justifies her quick action by saying that she refuses to be in relationship where you have to discuss the possibility of leaving, you just do it if you are unhappy.

During all of our discussions/meetings, I have been overly sympathetic and scared to have an open discussion for fear that it will push her away. It hurts me more because she starts out nice and then starts putting me down and telling me about everything that I didn't do for her during our marriage. There is another side of me that wants to remind her of the good things, but I know that will just cause more resentments.

Thank You dburt!