I've just caught up with things and am not entirely sure what to say. I know the point of the boards is to save marriages, but at the same time I do think that DBing is about saving yourself first. I've been thinking this week about your sitch. You've been trying so hard, and your H is giving...... nothing meaningful, after all this time. I know he has issues, but HE is the one who asked for the reconciliation. HE needs to step up here and give you something (even a little something) in return.
Sometimes I read your thread and I wish so hard for you to reconcile, because wouldn't it be great if one of us who started this thing together were to be able to achieve it? I find myself willing him to do something, and am constantly disappointed when he doesn't. It must be a million times worse for you.....
So I guess what I'm saying is that I'm a bit fed up with your H. My instinct tells me that if he really wants the R, he should step up now. He's not doing that. Maybe we can make excuses for him and say he's not in the right frame of mind to do it, needs work as a comfort, needs time to think, etc etc. Or maybe we can say that he doesn't want it enough to do what's necessary. I don't know the answer..... but I do know that life is now.
Thinking of you. How are the kids? How is your Dad? Did you get that message I left for you on Messenger?
