Thanks Portland. I was thinking those same things, but wasn't sure how to phrase them. I'll have to find a good time to talk to him about it or possibly send him an email regarding the time the kids spend with him. I'll have to think about it some more.
The kids seemed to have a good time when they were over today. It was a nice day out so they got to play outside and made some new friends which is always nice. I talked to him briefly when I picked the kids up. He didn't seem to want to talk much and said he had a migraine. One thing I'm noticing is that he doesn't look me in the eye as much when we talk. I don't know if that means anything, it's just odd.
I don't really know if my limiting contact with him is having any affect. It's definitely a 180 for me since I was trying to keep in touch with him all of the time with texts and phone calls. Now I'm letting him initiate contact unless it has something to do with the kids. I don't see him very often so how do I tell if what I'm doing is working? He seems very guarded and closed off when I'm around him. There have been a few times when he seemed to have let his guard down. One was Friday night when we discussed me picking up the dog. He chatted with me about his parents instead of just ending the conversation with me agreeing to pick up the dog. The other was when he im'ed me and told me I looked hot during the course of the conversation. The last one was when I picked up the kids on Tuesday and he again complimented how I looked and seemed to enjoy our little conversation before I left. I think those would be baby steps? He's so confusing to me right now that I'm not sure if he's just being nice or if he's really noticing my changes.
I'll see him once more on Saturday when we do his family's annual egg hunt at his grandmother's house. It has the possibility of being awkward I think. My plan is to dress well and act as if it's just like any other year. I plan on telling them about going back to college and acting as if everything is going really well with my life. I want to portray the image of someone who is continuing with life and making the best out of my situation (which I am doing). I would love it if when I left they questioned his motives behind leaving me and that would cause him to really look at what he's doing. I'm not too sure how realistic that is, but I can hope!
