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Btw, I am changing your title...
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Nice banter!

Have a good ride home. How long a train ride is that?


T19 M15 S19 XH47 M43
bomb12/4/07
PA5/07
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D final 11/17/08
Back together with no defined R 05/2010
confused....to say the least!!!

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GOOD JOB ALI

I LOVE THE BANTER!!!!!!

MORE OF WHAT WORKS!!!!!!!

take the pressure off him
take the pressure off yourself
create room for the connection to reopen
without pushing or trying to control
just let it

LOVE
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Great advice as usual from T.

Enjoy your weekend and let the chips fall as they may.

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No I do K its just that it got too late and I didnt want him to get a text message in the evening... I wondered if he might be with her and my intuition said, having a showdown and letting her know (as he once did to me 2 days before the S) that he was going away to think... but.. I could be wrong about that !!!

Well.. I am glad you are think it was cool.. I dont know, its a 3 1/2 hour car journey flat out and a 4 hour train ride... and we are both leaving just before 9.. so its a bit mean to be honest and ridiculous that he isnt driving me. Partly I feel its bad that he wont even sit in a car with me to drive home and partly I feel its good, as he is said he wanted "time to think" which can only be a good thing. And at least I was 'cool' about it and although he might've dreaded letting me know, I then sent him jokey texts and he must have felt relieved and uplifted by that at least.

I saw G and Cher last night.. they seem ok off and on, but we all had a brilliant night out, a group of us at band night, so I genuinely enjoy things nowadays, which is a relief. G straight away asked me how I was feeling, how was the other night, anyting sorted? I said, no! Just emotion.. he said... you properly destroyed each other.. you were BOTH crying and looked awful. Gosh, it must have looked bad, no wonder if ex is a bit embarressed afterwards.

SO .. off now back home on my train... speak to you all from the other side.

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Hey Al,

I must have been off the boards for too long because I think I've just had to catch up on over 12 pages of your thread!

Lots of progress with BF, and the Piscean angle too. So exciting! I wish I had good advice, but I'm not sure I have anything to add to what everyone else has already said. IMHO, him needing space on the drive up is a good sign. He's obviously thinking about his situation and when he's alone he can really look at what's going on in his own head without distraction. So I hope he makes some progress on that tonight. Also they do tend to withdraw a little after those big emotional discussions. Remember how my H was last year- every time he opened up to me he'd then withdraw for a while to think about things....

Have a great weekend, and I hope the trains aren't too bad today.

L. xx

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