K,

What I see is that H is making an effort. It might be miniscule compared to what you want, but he did try-- "why don't WE go together". Why can't you wait and go with him? I know you are frustrated. But he is trying to reach out to you and if it's not what you want in the form you want, it seems like you won't accept it.

I'm really glad to hear about your dad!

love,
T