I like the way you hold your own with her. The point of DBing, as I see it, is to still be around when the affair is over. I'm all about children's lit, so forgive the analogy, but to me it is the Peter Pan story.
Peter is irresistable, and Wendy goes off with him. But, Peter is Peter and he won't grow up and he won't settle down, and finally Wendy wants to go home. Years later, Peter comes back. Wendy is a mother, and Peter sees her daughter Jane asleep in the bed. Jane wants to go off with Peter. Wendy is torn, she has to let Jane go, but she keeps the window open for her to return. Because she knows the story of Peter Pan, and she knows Never Neverland is not really as wonderful as it looks from a distance. And the magic does end, Jane won't be able to live there either.
