Just wanted to offer my support. I've been at this for 2 years too. You are getting awesome advice from very wise people - please follow it!
Stuck, thank you for this. I need a new game plan and goals and this really helps me too:
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Think of him as a stray dog. He comes into your yard and is afraid of the new surroundings. If you come out and start chasing after him to keep him, he gets scared and runs away or stands his ground and bares his teeth. But if you were to make the yard non-threatening and safe by leaving out some scraps of food here and there, then water, then whole meals, he will feel safer and secure with each meeting. It will then get to the point where he will allow you to pet him when it's safe enough.
It's a long process and I think you need to start off as if he just left even though you've been at it for 2 years. You've just been doing the wrong things. Come up with a game plan and a list of goals. Then make them happen.
Me 56 H 47 Married 21 years No children Bomb & moved out 4/07 "My feelings have changed" & "I want to live by myself". Ow Bomb 8/07 H filed 6/08 D final 2/05/10
