...i found something out tonight also, her sister came to my home like she normally does, we was chatting and she was on about my wife and she hates whats she is doing and fully supportive of me, and she mentioned her mum saying she thinks its a MLC, she then said during the first few weeks of our split, she remembers my wife locking herself in the bedroom all day and all night, she knocked and asked could she come in and my wife replied NO. her son also knocked to ask something and she ignored him, over 24 hrs she was locked in there, her sister thought nothing of it but is that normal behaviour?, i think not. i have also noticed she is telling everyone that it wasnt working and i would end up hating her if she stayed, i think she is looking for reassurance from them, to confirm she has done the right thing, but nobody is agreeing, they all think she has lost the plot, they dont say it to her but the dont agree either, well the people that know us anyway,
i remember one night in bed when she said, you need to get a grip of me and make me have sex, like be rough and just do it, i laughed and did just that, looking back now i see that as a hormonal change she was at her peek and needed more, like i said its a jigsaw and its all clicking into place,
her bodily functions are all over the place. thank guys, and thank you rob i will have more to tell tomorrow everything keeps coming back to me
Nobody wants to believe or can believe that a MLC (mid life crisis) can happen to a woman in her 30s but it can. That plus the changes in her body, it really is a huge change and a struggle for women going through this to cope with these feelings, needs, urges, desire, ideas and thoughts that are going through their minds. It's all very new & alien.
Her speaking to friends & family saying that her leaving is for the best is her trying to cope with her guilt, she doesn't understand why she is feeling this way and she is trying to get some reassurance to help her deal with these feelings. She is in a tough place now, I know it's easy to be angry with her but from her point of view, she may feel like she's has been thrust into a new world and she is trying to cope with these feelings, feelings like she must not love you if she wants to be with other men and that is alot of guilt to deal with.
Locking herself in her room and not wanting to see anyone isn't uncommon, if I remember correctly, I experienced that with my own wife as well, including not wanting to see the kids.
As for the sex and her wanting it a specific way, think about it, the changes in her body, the new strange sexual urges to possibly be with other men coupled with an increased sex drive, she is in her sexual prime. I'm not surprised by her needing rough sex, she needs something new, exciting, a new feeling, she doesn't want the same sex, she has been with the same guy and is getting the same sex, she wants new, exciting, different sex and if she can't get it from you, she wants it from someone else and possibly multiple partners. And again, I experienced the same thing but only into the separation when I stopped taking my wife's abusive behavior and I started standing up for myself. Yes my wife all of a sudden wanted very rough sex, she wanted a good pounding from behind (doggy style for those trying to decipher that) and she wanted it really hard, she also wanted her hair to be pulled, she wanted to talk very dirty and to be called names and she wanted very long sessions. No we aren't anywhere near reconciled and like I've said before I can't guarantee that we will be but I do know that I have experienced the best sex of my life during this period of time and it's quite possible that your wife is looking for the same thing right now.
