...things are slowly coming together for me its like a jigsaw, piece by piece. we had always planned to foster children, my wife was excited at the thought of it. about 6 to 7 weeks ago we was leaving the house and my daughter said mum when are we going to foster? i heard my wife say were not. i was half listening and didnt look to much into it, was this a sign she was thinking of leaving?
i also remember i was talking one night probably around the same time 6 to 7 wks ago about work and which way i should go with it, i was unsure beacuse of the market crash, so i said i was at a crossroads with it. she replied i am, i said what do you mean and she said o nothing.... i left it at that, another sign?
Yes I would say those are all signs.
At first you BOTH were planning to foster children and then SHE makes the decision that you won't be fostering children. That is a sign of someone who is preparing to make alot of decisions without their partner.
Her mentioning that she was at a "crossroad" in her own personal decision is obviously another sign. I wonder though, if someone starts thinking out loud in this process, how many other signs did you miss along the way much earlier on this year and last year - these things usually build up after a long time. Don't fault yourself for not noticing, like most men, we're not mind readers although apparently our spouses wish we were. You see women have that portion of the brain much more developed for evaluating emotional responses, feelings & body language. Men are at a disadvantage in that respect. When women wish we could read their minds, it's only because they feel that things are apparent and they are too a specific extent to them, we aren't developed to look for those subtle cues, only after a process like this will you be much more aware because this is a new situation and our bodies are essentials engines of adaptation, you are constantly trying to do things to adapt to the new situation, your brain is learning, forming new neural pathways and if you are constantly being rejected and pushed away, your brain based on the limited info it has on this situation, is struggling to determine the best course of action based on the information available in your brain.
