I think I am learning. Not to engage if at all possible, to detach(a word my H sees as negatively loaded)..to reinforce the positive. Just have to be better at emails so they can't get so misunderstood!
Pretty sure you are learning...sucks when you have to learn the hard way huh? But those lessons usually last longer.
I refused to talk with my wife in emails, becuase things could be taken out of context too easily. At least about the feelings stuff.
Direct and to the point emails...fine.
"I will pick up boys at 6 pm. B will have your credit card bill with him. Change the address to your address."
Experience is a brutal teacher, but you learn. My God, do you learn. - C.S. Lewis
Life is usually all about how you handle Plan B. - Jack3Beans
Listen without defending; Speak without offending - FaithinAK
