hi guys and thanks for posting, no your not hijacking my thread keep posting its good to read them all, our situations are similar, rob has sound advice and a man with wisdom, he has our best interests at heart,
thanks rob
my wife called tonight something about my step son, she ranted and raved down the phone i just listened, beacuse i didnt show much response to her she said o i have to go, i said me to bye,
she would of hated that,

my sister asked me something tonight that made me think it actually blew me away a little, she said whats it like now at home? bet your shattered doing all the chores and shopping and stuff, and working also, i said yea i am, then something clicked, i said hang on im actually doing all the stuff i did while my wife was still around, only difference is she aint here. so what im trying to say is nothing has changed for me except my wife has left, so i was a doormat before she left, dont get me wrong i did like taking care of her. looking back i think i did to much for her i looked weak in her eyes, o yea she thank me for what i do and did and tell people how wonderful i was, not saying men shouldn't do anything, its nice to be nice but maybe i did to much?

things are slowly coming together for me its like a jigsaw, piece by piece. we had always planned to foster children, my wife was excited at the thought of it. about 6 to 7 weeks ago we was leaving the house and my daughter said mum when are we going to foster? i heard my wife say were not. i was half listening and didnt look to much into it, was this a sign she was thinking of leaving?

i also remember i was talking one night probably around the same time 6 to 7 wks ago about work and which way i should go with it, i was unsure beacuse of the market crash, so i said i was at a crossroads with it. she replied i am, i said what do you mean and she said o nothing.... i left it at that, another sign?

i found something out tonight also, her sister came to my home like she normally does, we was chatting and she was on about my wife and she hates whats she is doing and fully supportive of me, and she mentioned her mum saying she thinks its a MLC, she then said during the first few weeks of our split, she remembers my wife locking herself in the bedroom all day and all night, she knocked and asked could she come in and my wife replied NO. her son also knocked to ask something and she ignored him, over 24 hrs she was locked in there, her sister thought nothing of it but is that normal behaviour?, i think not.
i have also noticed she is telling everyone that it wasnt working and i would end up hating her if she stayed, i think she is looking for reassurance from them, to confirm she has done the right thing, but nobody is agreeing, they all think she has lost the plot, they dont say it to her but the dont agree either, well the people that know us anyway,

i remember one night in bed when she said, you need to get a grip of me and make me have sex, like be rough and just do it, i laughed and did just that, looking back now i see that as a hormonal change she was at her peek and needed more,
like i said its a jigsaw and its all clicking into place,

her bodily functions are all over the place.
thank guys, and thank you rob
i will have more to tell tomorrow everything keeps coming back to me