Rob - I have learned a lot from you and my struggles on my own thread. I am connected to beno and Making_It as my sitch is all too similar.
My question to you... Are you saying to confront the EA (who knows PA) head on with her? From things I have read here/book seems like doing that I need to be prepared for a death sentence. Am I still not getting it? I know her too well and know if I do that now it will be over.
I have been detaching and am getting how to do that and not give up (thanks PearlHarbr). This is about my dignity. I have to walk in my shoes. Me and Me alone! No empathy needed.
Hoping not to hijack either, but that this helps all of us.
I'll fill more in later on this but here is something to start you off with: Your marriage is never going to be guaranteed, I can't guarantee, Michelle Weiner-Davis can't guarantee it, no one can and praying to God won't make it come back to life either, this is in your hands.
But I'm pretty sure it will end if you keep pretending that nothing is wrong and continue to grovel for your wife's affection. I don't know how that will fix anything, do you?
Women have no respect for men who are afraid of them, and women are can be quite cruel to men who are.
