Holding onto Hope

[In Limbo]

What a coincidence, I have just finished reading Not Just Friends. It has been VERY helpful. H said he had not been in contact with OW for last two weeks. But he had not told her not to contact him. Yesterday she emailed him and asked him if I had told him that our M could not continue if he was in contact with her. He told her yes and has had no contact since then. The EA was more one-sided with him pursuing her. From reading hte emails, I think she didn't fully realize his feelings. I believe the emails/calls have stopped, but they are still part of a work group that hangs out weekly and he's not willing to stop doing things with the group and also not willing to let me join them. Also not open to being transparent with login ids, etc. I guess one of the things that worries me about DB is that I know he has an emotional void now that OW used to fill. He's turning to me now more than in years and we are having mutually beneficial discussions/sharing sessions. I don't want to be so detached that we lose that because I fill like that's our chance at reconciliation.
I just hopped over and read your sitch. I see so many parallels it's weird. Although, I will say that in our M, I am the one that avoids conflict and over time the more I avoided dealing with things, the more resentment built up for both of us.
It's good to hear from someone who understands the whole EA thing.
It looks like you have a S10months. Is that correct? Could it be possible that W has post-partum? Just a thought.