New here and seeking advice

[MrNiceGuy]

My own personal awareness has grown over the past few weeks, and No More Mr Nice Guy (NMMNG) is a great add-on that I'm currently working through.

I identified the following six pillars of strength that, while a bit vague in the below form, provide some guidelines for me to assess my situation and life moving forward:

1) Living Consciously: Doesn't act out of self-blindness.

2) Self-Acceptance: Non-defensiveness and willingness to hear critical feedback or different ideas.

3) Self-Responsibility: Sense of control of destiny.

4) Self-Assertiveness: Someone else's disapproval won't matter.

5) Living Purposefully: Sense of control of destiny, purpose, and direction.

6) Personal Integrity: Do what you say you'll do; Be honest.

My assessment so far is that it is a 'house of cards'. Without a good foundation, we fall. For instance, I lost a number of these pillars and put too much pressure on my wife for too long -- she collapsed (granted, into the arms of another perhaps). By rebuilding these I'll do a better job of standing on my own two feet again - regardless of what happens in my M.


Anybody have any thoughts on what it means to stand on our own two feet again?