Lucy, This is one I can help you on, during our couseling at the 5 year mark, we explain to the couseler that we argue over pennies spent.
The couselor's solution was simple. Each person gets so much a pay, say $50.00 each in your case and that money cannot be questioned. Does not matter is the others buys $50 of ice cream.
Next we had to ask permission of the other spouse for not normal purchases of $20.00 or more.
And finally, all recepts where placed in a box and a monthly ledger was filled in. This reduced money arguments to nill.
