WAW - Very confused and devastated - pt 6

[confusedinpa]

This is getting really difficult - helping at the risk of more Mr Nice Guy behaviour vs. not helping at the risk of not demonstrating compassion.

I have told her that I will not stop her but will not help her. She hasn't asked me to help her, but keeps saying that she doesn't have anyone to help her and she's doing the best that she can. I am very torn as to what's the right thing to do.

My value is that I don't believe that the separation is the right thing. I do believe she needs some space and time and believe we can do it in the same house. She doesn't believe that. She feels that if she doesn't leave soon, being faced with the person who hurt, she will not be able to keep it together any longer. She feels like she is trapped and needs escape. Even when she see's I've changed, she gets mad that I couldn't understand it back when she "cared".

This is a BIG decision point in my path