I am sorry that you are in the situation you are in, but am glad that you found this place. It has really helped me a lot.
You will hear words and advice over and over again that all amount to the same thing...
1) Detach 2) Focus on yourself
They are both so easy to say, harder to understand, and oh-so-hard to do. Like us all, you'll try, succeed a bit, then fall down, backslide, pick yourself up, and then try again.
Stay in touch. It get's easier.
Me 42, W 39, S8, S6, S2 M 11y, A & ILYBNILWY 11/08 Walking away from a bad situation.