regarding the spending of money and how I feel like h calls all the shots...
I didn't use that stance but I did ask if I could get "payed" like fifty dollars a week...
not money to "hide" but money so that when it comes to christmas or his birthday I actually feel like I bought him a gift rather than just went out and picked something up with "his" money...
it matters not to h where the money comes from...
but I think he did get the concept that I would like to have something that's mine...
I also noted that if there get's to be a build up of money and I wanted to get something for the house like say a kitchen island wich wasn't in the "budget" for the time, I could use "my" money to get such items.
h seemed to understand and it sounded like a doable thing...we'll see how it works out...I'll take the new job aproach...typically you don't get paid the first week at work so I'll let a week go buy before I mention it again.
the convo came from him talking about money so I wasn't just pulling it out of the air.
it would be nice to have my "own" money to make decisions with even if only a small stash...I haven't had my own money since we got married...even before the kids arived, I gave my paycheck directly to h to deposit.
