Hi LL, Hugs definitely work! When H and I had the talk which meant he came back the way I knew he was ready was because he hugged me.
You definitely should run and greet him with the kids, it's simple he sees these little wide-eyed kids run up to him all smiles and jump into his arms and W is there somewhere in the background. First words are probably going to be some sort of instruction or complaint. It's weird how we fall into these habits. Anyhow I read somewhere about a couple who noticed how the most friendly greeter of all in their house was the dog, so they decided to Top the Dog and now run towards each other arms akimbo and whooping then leap at each other for a big bear hug. OK maybe that's a little over the top, but since I read that I have been gradually acting more friendly and excited when H comes home. You know trying to push past the kids and get there first, stuff like that. We make a joke of it by I am sure H likes it and I do too. His reponse has become warmer too. Even when I don't feel like doing it I do it anyway now.
take care
Fran
if we can be sufficient to ourselves, we need fear no entangling webs Erica Jong
