My wife has this dream in her head. We will separate and we will both let go. She will see other people, I will see other people. Then after some time, the stars will align, are paths will cross at 1:17pm on a Tuesday, we will catch each others eyes and bam we will realize we are the only ones for each other and fall in love again.
Sound nice, but probably not going to happen. The only way I know to make a relationship work is to stay in it and give it time.
So again, do I "let" her do it by not demanding a divorce first?