So, W called this morning on her way to work and we got into a fight about stuff. She asked me some questions and I told her how I felt and she didn't like the answers so she started in on me a little and instead of just owning my feelings and letting her have hers I started trying to defend my feelings. Not a good thing. I realize that that is one of the things I need to work on for myself. I shouldn't feel attacked when someone doesn't feel the way I do and try to defend it and I should try to placate anyone to make them happy. Typical nice guy stuff and it has to stop. Working hard on it but as they say, Rome wasn't built in a day and this is going to take time. Pretty bummed about the fight and mad at myself for getting into it. Backslid some there but I have to regroup, refocus and get on with it. Any words of wisdom from people who have been through this before?
