"Going Dark" - 101

[I tried hard]

I like this thread! In a sense I've gone dark. Wife (37) started a new affair with 23 yr old. Although I think this is a midlife crisis I resolved there is nothing I can do to tell her this. I decided to go dark/disconnect from the pain and work on me. I wont hold out hope or encourage the affair but rather separate/divorce to give her the space. I beleive there is alot of therapy she needs in other areas but she will not face the facts but rather ignore them because it's easier. I think this affair will run it's course but I can't stand seeing it happen right in front of me.