LBS need help and support #2

[AJM]

Hey Song. Thanks for the Birthday wish. I was just catching up on your sit.

It hurts. It is painful. It may not work out like you want it to. But it will work out.

I think you should put it away. What I mean is that until your wife hands you the papers, act like she's not going to. She still can't bring herself to cross that line. She's tired because she thinks about you all the time. She wants to stop being tired. She equates that with stopping the marriage.

Your mission: stop being associated with the tiredness she feels. Take that pressure off. Divorce won't do that. You have to find the way to do that. I think you have already started down that path. But you have to give her the room to make that decision. And you have to be able to live with it. Trust her. Even if that's the last thing you want to do. It'll start the trust and from there you can build friendship with her.

She may make the mistake of the divorce. She might Song. It'll hurt. But it won't be the end of you. It won't be the end of the story either. She's not done, but she's tired and can't think of a different way to solve the problem.

She has to be the one to pull that trigger though. Your kids need to know it wasn't you. She needs to face that decision as well.

Hang in there Song. GAL.

AJ