Quote: I'm just trying to understand what you are saying...I think I get it...but the way you are putting it almost sounds like the r starts with sex...rather than the r grows and leads up to sex.
no...the r doesn't start with sex, and i see where i was confusing on that issue. all the things i am doing (the db'n and goals and things) are all going to lead up to the act (well i hope so anyway) which would then signify we are BOTH working on this r together after the act takes place.
so you are more then correct when you say that it grows and leads up to sex. as it should be in any lasting relationship eh?
a r based solely on sex from the very start isn't a r at all - but that is up to interpretation LOL
